I stand up to bullies. Online, and in real life. Sometimes people respond to that by saying ‘Oh, you’re just perpetuating the drama!’ That’s fine, if they don’t like it they can go somewhere else.
The reason I stand up to bullies has very little to do with getting likes or blog hits.
I stand up to bullies for my daughters.
Because they are on the cusp of entering adolescence, and they are going to come face to face with bullies and body shamers, and they don’t have the cognitive awareness yet to see bullies for what they are: insecure, jealous, hateful people who need to tear down others to feel better about themselves, who need to rationalize their own dysfunctional thinking by criticizing those who have a healthy sense of self worth and a healthy way of approaching life.
I stand up to bullies, and TALK about standing up to bullies, so that when my daughters are bullied, I can say ‘Look, see what people say about me? And see how it isn’t true? And see how it doesn’t make me feel bad about myself, because I know they are really talking about themselves and not me? You can respond that way too!’
I’ve written a couple blog posts about stuff like this: