Comments on: 10 Signs You May Be a Narcissist

By: julie

julie — Tue, 22 Jul 2014 23:47:02 +0000

Are we sisters? Fortunately, the mom has mellowed a bit, but at almost each of the points above, I thought “that’s my mom!”. And while I don’t put up with that shit today, she did a lot of damage to me that she’s not at all capable of understanding. I’m rather short-tempered wrt her, these days.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 15 Jul 2014 01:00:46 +0000

THIS: ‘Find someone worth your time, because you are the crazy kind of lovely that only happens once’. Brilliant! Sharing!

By: emme

emme — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 17:09:47 +0000

I do date a narcissist. I don’t know if he’s been diagnosed as one, but those are all things he does. I think when we first met I was more open to trying to please him and felt that I “wanted to be a better person” with him giving me tips. I still love him and we’re still together, but I don’t allow him to “fix me” and I always put the brakes on when he starts assessing random people. He’s a good guy overall and my independence and strengths allow me to maintain my positive sense of self and my self-esteem. Knowing he’s a narcissist actually helps me be a little more compassionate with him as well.

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 02:48:51 +0000

You and me both!!! I only realized after dating my ex how narcissistic he was (incredibly insecure though). He told me what my ideal weight should be one time, how I should wear my hair. He was a complete jerk. I don’t think the worst women in the world deserves his crap.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 13 Jul 2014 15:43:59 +0000

Don’t allow her to even comment on your body. If she brings it up, tell her straight out that is no longer have that conversation with her. Of course she’ll act all put off, but you’ll feel better. Tell your sister to do the same. If she won’t, tell her you’ll no longer have that conversation with her either.
It’s sick and to be apart of it, puts you in the middle of the sickness.
My mother spent her whole life pitting me and my siblings because that was the only relationship she had. So sick. Amazing though how those messages radiate in our heads, even if you know better.

By: Mel R

Mel R — Sun, 13 Jul 2014 14:29:35 +0000

Miss GV – You are not “too large framed”; You are just right! You are good enough. You are beautiful. And anyone who thinks less of you is missing out on what a truly amazing person you are. 🙂

Small minded, negative people can easily be shaken off because they deter from your happy. He’s water off your back…. no go run, feel good, have fun, be happy. That’s all that matters 🙂

By: Mel R

Mel R — Sun, 13 Jul 2014 14:22:12 +0000

I dated a man like this for a while myself. It wasn’t until the relationship ended that the dawn of realization hit me. I was fine and had been the whole time!

He, on the other hand… well let’s just hope that whoever he ends up with is either not as gullible as yours truly; or feels that her whole purpose in life is to succumb and suck up to whatever line of BS he’s spewing. If that’s the case, then they were truly made for each other.. HA! I also hope they live in a house with enough mirrors… 😉

By: Marcela

Marcela — Sun, 13 Jul 2014 14:03:07 +0000

Happened to me, too! First serious boyfriend: We were at the supermarket checkout and I (a little insecure about my body) showed a cover with a curvaceous woman, very much like me, and asked: “What do you think of her, isn`t she pretty?”, to which he replied: “nah, too big for me”.

After a while, I was going to move cities and he said he wouldn’t do long distance because “it would be a waste of his thriving young man sexuality to wait all those weeks for sex” and later, to put the cherry on top said “we shouldn’t have seen each other in mundane situations (like in the loo or whatever) because it takes the charm and mistery out of the relationship”.

He did me a favour breaking up with me as my husband is infinetly better. I wonder how it went for him, having to deal with his pregnant wife puking and what not. I’m sure he was charmed…

By: Summer

Summer — Sun, 13 Jul 2014 13:50:27 +0000

I love it! It seems like some of these items could be on a list called, “10 signs you are actually insecure”. I think people who behave this way also use it as a defence against areas of themselves where they feel ashamed.

By: Cami

Cami — Sun, 13 Jul 2014 13:46:13 +0000

Sounds like my mother. I’m reminded of the time I sent her a picture of myself after running in my first 5k and her response was ‘Who is the fat person in the photo? I thought you said you lost weight?’ And then more recently she commented on my weight loss and said I looked good, but then the next day told my sister to tell me to lose more (she thought I’d take it better coming from my sister). And my mother wonders why I ignore her calls :p